Posted in Blog, Mental Health

Walking Through Fog

Four weeks tomorrow my brother died expectantly. I am just starting to get out of the fog that I have been walking through the last four weeks, but I know I am not all of the way out of it yet. There is still another week and a half before we bury him.

My brother died due to a drug overdose (for more info on that check out the Write or Die episode where I talk about it a little more). He had suffered with addiction (a mental health illness) for most of my life, most of his life. When someone you care about dies suddenly it is a complete shock to the system. Though I always feared this would be his outcome I still held out hope that it wouldn’t end this way.

I keep thinking to myself, is there something else that I could have done? Something I could have said? Something I missed?

But ultimately, thinking like that won’t bring him back, it will just keep me in this fog of sadness. I know he loved me. I hope he knew that I loved him too.

What I want to share right now is that if you are struggling reach out. Your family may have created a boundary but they still love you. You are not alone.

If you love someone who is hurting and you don’t know how to help. Reach out. One of the hardest things for me right now is the what ifs. It is the talking with my mom about what could have been done differently. It is hearing how she wishes she did more. That hurt and guilt is not healthy. Though it is normal, it needs to be worked through.

Speak up, be honest, and get help if you need it.

 

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Posted in Mental Health, Reviews

The Man in the Pit Review by David Bishop

This book is short and sweet. If you are looking for a quick read that is still entertaining and informative this is the book for you. Just like the title says it is about a man in a  pit. Through this imagery the author shows how someone who is suffering with depression might feel and see the world. It also shows the side of society and how people with depression are often treated (or rather mistreated).

The Man in the Pit: A short story to help loved ones recognize, understand, and respond to depression by [David Bishop]

Now, before you start thinking that you can just read this book and everything will be roses in your life stop because this is not a replacement for treatment. This was not written by a doctor but someone who wanted to share his experiences with others in the hopes that it will help them to understand their loved ones who may be going through depression.

And he succeeds in this purpose. The way that he describes being the man in the pit and how others speak with him about being in the pit is so close to how I have experienced moments of depression.

If you want a quick read to help you understand a loved one who is experiencing depression this is the book for you.

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