This book is an easy read that I finished in two nights, but the topic of this book is not easy. This is the true story of sexual abuse that a young girl (Regina) had to endure. The book chronicles how she felt when it first started; scared and unsure, to a teenager who didn’t understand her own sexuality, to a woman who overcame the trauma.
There are excellent nuggets of wisdom and self discovery. Trauma can stay with you forever but Regina shows how you can use that trauma for good – by sharing her story.
The last few chapters were in-depth and I felt a real connection to the author. The first few chapters shared the story but were not as in depth as what was to come. Overall, for those that have suffered sexual trauma or are the parents to someone who has suffered sexual abuse this book gives great insight. Emotions can be difficult to explain and Regina does an excellent job of sharing those.
Children should never have to suffer, but the reality is that many children do. Many children endure a life that others can only fathom through nightmares. If those children are lucky they may end up in the foster care system, but that doesn’t mean that their nightmare ends. Not all foster homes are loving or supportive. There is a need for loving families to become foster parents.
Justin and Alexis were two of those children living through a nightmare. As a parent it was a struggle to read the pain that they had to endure at the hands of those who were supposed to protect and love them. It makes me want to hold onto my children even tighten.
Though they were both in the foster care system they had significantly different reasons for entering. Throughout the book they each share what caused them to enter the system and their experiences within the system. It is interesting to see how different their lives were but in the end found love with each other.
Each section has an ‘Alexis’ and a ‘Justin’ portion where the reader learns more about each of their pasts and understand how they are similar. Culminating in the ending section that is written together.
Trauma in the past does not need to define who we are in the present. For anyone who is struggling with their past this is an excellent book to read. Even if you were not in the foster care system this book has something to offer. If you have ever thought about fostering a child but unsure due to their past trauma this is a must read. Just because these children had traumatic experiences does not mean that they are not worthy of love and respect.
Given the chance most children will shine through. If you don’t put a plant in sunshine it will wilt and die but if you give it what it needs it will flourish and bloom.
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The title is a bit of a mouthful but the book will make your heart full. Right from the start of the book I was hooked; the author jumps right into her story and I wanted to know more! When she shares about her mother and grandmother’s stories it made sense how she was raised. It wasn’t a lack of love, it was what they knew and that is what they had to pass on.
I have heard about transgenerational trauma in the past; trauma that is passed on from generation to generation. It is quite common until someone finally learns how to break that cycle. That is what this book is really about. As much as I loved hearing about Dorothy’s story I was more interested in how she became the cycle breaker.
Throughout the book I could identify with some of the struggles that she had learned from her parents. I understood that certain lessons I had learned needed to be relearned. The trouble is how?
At the end of each chapter Dorothy gives you exercises that you can use to help break the cycle in your family. It is not an easy thing to do and I am a huge advocate for therapy if you have the opportunity. This book is a great starting point with the real life examples and the exercises. Don’t skip the exercises, they are worthwhile and will help you along your journey.
Exercise is often stated as a coping strategy for mental health. I use exercise myself and love the release of endorphins that it gives me. However, yoga specifically is often given as a coping strategy for anxiety. The calmness of yoga and the idea of non-attachment can be very helpful for someone who suffers with anxiety. Being told this can seem silly and I used to wonder how that could possibly be true. How is focusing on my breathe going to help me?
Within this book Kathryn shares how she went from someone with extreme and sometimes debilitating anxiety to someone willing to put herself out into the world. To her this would not have been possible without yoga. She does a great job writing about the transition from her one self to her new self. The words are well chosen and the writing is clean.
I found that I struggled to get into the book in the first bit, kind of like how I struggled to get into yoga (yes not only do I do yoga
but I am also a yoga teacher). As I continued to read to I identified more and more with Kathryn and am so glad that I didn’t put the book down. By the end I couldn’t put the book down.
Not only was I identifying with her journey of learning yoga but her journey with cancer. She had breast cancer and I had cervical cancer. When she writes of wondering if it will ever return I feel her worry. When she writes about having to come to terms with this illness I feel her pain. She doesn’t gloss over the strong emotions that come with this diagnosis. She embraces that part of her journey and shares it openly with all of her readers. I felt like someone else finally understood me!
If you have ever wondered about yoga this book is for you. If you have struggled with cancer and the emotions that go with it, this book is for your. If you love a well written story about someone’s life, this book is for you!
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This is not the type of book I would normally pick up but that’s the fun of having books sent to me to review. First off, if you have an aversion to harsh language this is not the book for you. Second, if you have an aversion to reading about sex, this book is not for you. Other than that this book is an interesting read.
The book starts with being written as if the main character is writing in his journal. I enjoyed this viewpoint as I don’t see it used much. It chronicles his struggle as a falling Rockstar with a drug addiction. The author does a great job in showing the internal struggle of being an addict but not wanting to be an addict.
As the book progresses the main character’s struggle progresses. Eventually, it ends him in rehab, but that is not the end of the story. The real ending (which I won’t give away) is a great twist. I didn’t see that coming and the author does a great job of building the suspense before revealing the twist.