If I had to sum this book up in one word that word would be honest. There was no fluff, no pity party, no excuses; just pure vulnerable honesty.
Not only does J.T. share how stupid he was (his words not mine ; I think he was brave) but he shares why he got sober the stupid way. The stupid way was trying to do it alone. The body becomes so reliant on alcohol that withdrawing incorrectly can kill you. J.T. found that out the hard way (and I think we are all glad that it didn’t kill him). There are detox centers that will help you to carefully and safely get sober.
When J.T. did make it through the initial process of getting sober he had to get back to life – work. He shares how he was able to make it through the first shift, then the next and continuing in career in the hospitality business (where he had to be around alcohol nearly everyday). The system of counting to seven and forgetting to get drunk worked well for him; and perhaps it could help you as well.
Finally, one of the most interesting pieces in the book was when J.T. writes about having to decline a drink when socializing. Since alcohol is a normalized part of society when someone declines a drink they are often questioned. We need to normalize not drinking.
This book is definitely worth the read, whether you are struggling with your alcohol consumption or if you love someone who is struggling. This book not only talks about the process but the feelings that he had to deal with and why he continued for so long.
If you prefer to listen it is on audible (that is how I listened to the book) and J.T. reads it, which I find it extra special to hear his voice telling his story.
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Stress has been proven over and over again to effect the body (including our vital organs; heart, lungs, brain, etc.). Many of us ignore when we are feeling stressed and instead chose to push through. In our western society this is seen as ‘strength’. However, this is really weakness. Ignoring what our mind is telling us (stress) is a weakness of communicating within ourselves. Eventually the mind decides to to take over the communication with us by affecting us in another way (often seen as non-stress related) and essentially forcing us to finally listen.
In One Thing Remains this communication between the stress, mind and body is clear. By ignoring the stress David’s mind decided enough was enough and it would force David to listen. The book shows us that when we don’t take time for rest we can lose things that are important to us. In David’s case it was his memory.
For nearly a month David and his family had to traverse unknown territory. Throughout the struggle there was one constant that remained for David, one thing that never left him even though 13 years of his life had been wiped from his memory. No I am not going to tell you what that one thing was because I want you to read the book.
What I will say is that this book is a beautiful reminder to take care of yourself. To listen to your mind, to you body and to the stress that is inevitable. We can’t truly escape all stress in life but we can take the time that we need to rejuvenate and reenergize instead of pushing through.
I encourage you to take the time to read this book and take its message to heart.
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Ever look at someone and think “yup they are an addict”? Ever think to yourself that you can always tell who is or is not an addict? If you have then this book will blow your mind because you can’t just look at someone and know if they are struggling with an addiction.
David shares his very personal story of leading a secret life of sneaking away to get high, going to work and having a stable intimate relationship. He shares how early on in his struggle his parents knew he had an addiction and he went to rehab. Then he shares how he continued getting high all while pretending he wasn’t.
This story is raw, honest and gives you a real glimpse into the life of someone who is struggling. Not just struggling with their addiction but struggling with who they are as a person. Struggling with living in their own skin.
The courage it took David to share his story shows through the entire book. Keeping the reader involved and wanting to see how it turns out. A little spoiler…. it turns out well.
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You may have noticed that I didn’t have a blog last week. And this week I am a day late.
When things like that happened I used to beat myself up. Think that I was the worst person ever. Think no one would want to read what I had to share. Think that I am letting down those that do read and they would ‘leave me’.
This is part of my mental health. This is what a couple of my books are about and what the Write or Die Show is all about.
Going through therapy and talking to all of the great guests on the show has helped me not beat myself up when I need a break. I’ve been working on a big project for the past two weeks and finally finished it (yay). Since that project was so big I was working seven days a week at all hours of the day. Which I was okay with because it was pretty fun.
As I got closer to the deadline I focused even harder (which is why I missed last week’s blog). This week I took yesterday off (which is why today’s blog is a day late).
And THAT WAS OKAY!
It was okay that I took the time that I needed to refresh my brain. If you are anything like me and beat yourself up if you miss a small routine or need a break I am here to tell you that it is okay if you need a break.
Again, IT IS OKAY IF YOU NEED A BREAK!
This wasn’t the book that I was planning on reading next but it was the one I needed. Having my brother die suddenly and unexpectedly I was lost. Beforehand I had picked out which book I would be reading next, after he died I felt like I couldn’t pick up any book. It was very hard to get back into the groove of life.
As I looked at my bookshelf for the 50th time trying to get myself to pick up the book and get back to doing my day to day activities I noticed another book that was sent to me. Shut Up and Listen by Paola Aguillon. This book is all about grief and loss, which was exactly what I needed.
It is a short read, which was perfect as I was struggling to get back into reading. The content hit home 1000% (yes 1000 not 100 that is how much I needed this book right now). There was so many great moments of relief for me while reading the book that I actually highlighted some of the passages. I don’t normally do that when I am reading but this was a special book for me.
I’m not going to give away all of the content but to get you hooked here was my first ‘aha’ moment when reading this
“Allowing ourselves to grieve is allowing whatever emotion is coming up to take place and unravel.” pg. 17
The book spends time explaining how we can give ourselves permission to do what needs to be done, how society thinks it should be done and how to give yourself the space you need. A nice addition to the book is the chapter that is specific to men based on what society deems masculine. Another major point that this book discussed is the importance that grief is not just about death. We can grief various losses.
When Paola wrote about that I had another aha moment. When I had my hysterectomy and lost a part of myself I felt like I wanted to grieve but wasn’t sure if that was appropriate. It was! It is! And if I feel like it then that is okay!
No matter what you are experiencing whether it is a death, a loss or a major change this book is down to Earth and easy to read during a difficult time. I will be recommending this book to my other family members.
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